In today’s world we are faced with so many distractions, electronic things that are supposed to make life easier, and everything moving at a fast pace. People are working longer hours and spending time away from families and away from the people they love the most. It is time to STOP! slow down and reconnect.
When was the last time you grabbed that special someone in your life and whisked them away for a night or a weekend or a week where it was just the two of you. Over the past few weeks we have been talking about taking time out from the rigors of life to rest, relax, and renew yourself; well now it is time to do that with your loved one and we are going to add another “r” word to the list…reconnect! Yes it is time for couples to reconnect with each other and find that spark again. It could be something as simple as a date night. When was the last time you called up your loved one at their place of work and asked them out on a date?
Taking time to nurture your relationship is what helps to keep it going. Don’t just stop at date night. What about a romantic getaway. It doesn’t have to be anything fancy or elaborate. Just something that gets you out of town and away from the daily grind. Find the time to reconnect with something you both enjoy doing. If you like hiking and camping, summer is coming up so air out the tent and sleeping bags and hit the road for the weekend. Go camping in a favorite spot or explore a new location together. Reconnect over the things you enjoy together. It could be you both like mystery road trips…just get on the road decide on the direction and see where you end up. How about a weekend away in a Bed and Breakfast in some favorite location or a new spot to explore? It could even be a weekend cruise. Yes some cruise lines do such things as 3-night cruises over the weekend. Leave on a Friday and come back on Monday.
Whatever it is find the time to get out of town and go away together. Find that spark of romance again and nurture that spark into flames then fan it into an inferno. Sometimes we tend to think, they know how I feel, they know I love them. But when was the last time you said the words or took time out to spend some quality time with your loved one?
Back in December 2010 Brad and I had a great week away. For the first time in a very long time, we were on vacation…a true vacation. We had no family around us it was just the two of us. We had such an amazing time cruising the Western Caribbean. The cool part was that we actually got to relax and reconnect. We had had a very busy time for almost three years. It started in January 2008 when Brad was diagnosed with cancer, then when he got all clear we started packing up our house back east and getting ready to sell it. It sold very quickly and then we were into fast and furious packing and sorting and then moving across country, getting settled in our temporary housing and in a new city. Talk about stress!
Whenever we had taken vacations in the past it usually involved flying west to Los Angeles and spending time with Brad’s family and friends, or traveling down to New Zealand to visit with my family. There had been other trips where we had gone on working vacations. This December cruise was the first time that it was just the two of us, no work, no family, no agenda – well with the exception of wherever the ship took us. It was great! Now those who know me know what a huge morning person I am. I’m at the crack of dawn and ready to burst forth and embrace the day. On this cruise it was different. I actually slept in! Well I usually get up at 5:20am every morning and on the cruise I was waking up sometime between 7:30-8:30am. For me, that is a sleep in…I can hear some of you groaning about the early hour!! I would actually laze in bed for about 3-4 hours. Brad and I would finally emerge from our stateroom sometime around 12noon and head up to the buffet for lunch. There was only two mornings on the ship that we actually made it to breakfast…the day we were in Roatan and the day we disembarked from the cruise. Other than that we would be up in time for lunch and if we were in port we would wander around the vendors near the port and then back to the ship. The day we were in Roatan we actually picked up a tour and enjoyed a great day out with four other people in our van exploring Roatan and visiting the monkey park, seeing the beaches and other sights around Roatan. It was an awesome day.
This vacation was what we needed to relax, refresh, renew, and reconnect after all the busyness of the past three years. I’m not suggesting you wait three years to do something. Just find an evening, a weekend, a few days, a week to get away together and do something you both enjoy doing. So what are you waiting for…get your butt out of your chair and start planning…call us if you need help. Also tune into our radio show on Wednesday May 25th at 3:30pm PT to hear Michelle Vesquez, a relationship counselor talk more about why couples need to a break to reconnect.
Your challenge this week – yes we are now going to have a challenge each week – call your loved one and ask them out on a date! Go on…what are you waiting for??
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